On sacrifice:
Today I was told that my goals are too specific. Because I know what I want to do, and where I want to do it—I’m not flexible. Couldn’t I just choose one, and forgo the other? How are my goals to accommodate the goals of those I love, and who love me?
- Fact: If I was less specific, I could allow for compatibility among our fundamentally incompatible goals.
- Question: Is my unwillingness to sacrifice my own goals, selfish? Literally, maybe. But isn’t that okay? I have goals, and they’re attainable, and I want them SO BAD. I should be able to pursue my future without sacrificing dreams.
- Fact: If I don’t become flexible, I effectively establish a time-limit on my relationship.
- Question: Why?
- Question: What if my unwillingness to sacrifice, makes someone else decide to sacrifice for me? At that point, I’d have to compromise, to be fair, to be a partner. I end up sacrificing, because someone else decided for me. Is that okay?
How do I do this. How do I think about this.
